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Horses, Marriage & Communication Styles

Horses, Marriage & Communication Styles

...Stonewalling: This communication trait occurs when one of the spouses (usually the male) feels emotionally overwhelmed by the conversation and begins to retreat and shut down.  By stonewalling, one appears to be indifferent about the themes being discussed, but the opposite is true.  The one stonewalling feels criticized to a level where he or she believes the only option is a silent inward retreat.  A healthy couple will recognize signs of this dynamic happening and catch it early.  When stonewalling is present taking a break to calm down is the best option...