One shift in mindset can make all the difference with addiction.
Addiction is a spiral that can feel impossible to escape from. There are many reasons for this, but some simple approaches can make a big impact. Primarily, through the “Neri Method”. This method is named after the great saint, Phillip Neri, who was able to be happy, joyous, and free in the midst of an indulgent Rome.
What made him so effective in managing his own desires?
In the end, it boiled down to his daily mindset. Every day, he worked to be continually focused on joy, gratitude, and humor despite his circumstances.
For example, he was known for not taking himself too seriously (One day showing up to a dinner party with one side of his beard shaved off). This humor was contagious to those around him, and he drew many to spend time with him in affirming the goodness of life. This humor paved the way for them to live in positivity and grow in holiness.
In the world of addiction, St. Phillip Neri would not have gone too hard on the bad habit itself. He certainly wouldn’t have justified the behavior, but then again, most addicts already know how their struggle is hurting them. Instead, he would have rejected the negative script and focused on affirmations and the real path towards freedom.
If you see your loved ones struggling with heightened addiction, consider St. Neri’s example. Rather than pinpointing someone’s negative experiences, try to identify the things worth affirming.
Write down the positive things you can highlight with them and call it your “gift list”. Identify the joyful, the humorous, and that which you can be grateful for and make it the focus of your conversation with friends and family..
Will a more positive outlook totally cure someone of their addiction? Probably not. There is often more intensive intervention needed and we’re not downplaying those needs. However, without this mindset you will almost never find your way to freedom. By highlighting these areas of life, you may be giving an even greater gift to others by helping them embrace the mindset that provides freedom from addiction.
St. Phillip Neri of the joyous and free heart, pray for us!
